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Introduction
Think Win/Win is the 4th Habit of Highly Effective People. This is an alien way of thinking to most of us, me included. If I don’t get what I want at the end of a negotiation, I have lost and the other party won. That was my thinking until I read the 4th Habit of Highly Effective People.
As you know or don’t know☺️, I am presently on a journey to improve my leadership skills. This has lead me to read a few books. The first book was is Surrounded by idiots. Buy it here: https://amzn.to/2Tr1DwB (Affiliate link). You can read my blog about this book here: https://lifeofadocpreneur.com/2021/02/06/how-to-know-if-you-are-surrounded-by-idiots/
7 Habits of highly effective people is my second book review. You can buy it here: https://amzn.to/3wksSWO (Affiliate link)
Today’s blog is about the fourth habit of Highly effective people (7HHEP): Think Win/Win.
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Interdependence and Leadership
My last blog but one blog was about dependence, independence and interdependence.
Once you become a leader, it is assumed that you have a level of interdependence. Interdependence enables you to forge alliances and influence others. In order to function effectively in a leadership role, you need to Think Win/Win. (Not sure I buy it, though but happy to try out this habit😂)
6 Patterns of Human Interaction
There are 6 patterns of human interaction. This is an attitude and a behavioural guide.
- Win/Win:
- Mutual benefits.
- End result is equally beneficial and satisfying.
- All parties are committed to the action plan
- Cooperative not competitive
- Not your way or my way but a better/higher way😂
- Win/Lose
- If I win, you lose
- Authoritarian approach
- Has its place in competitive situations i.e sports
- Dysfunctional in promoting interdependence
- A weak position
- The best option in sports i.e premier league
- Lose/Win
- Worse than Win/Lose
- No demands/expectations/vision
- For those who are quick to please/appease
- Little courage, easily intimidated
- Giving in or giving up
- Results in buried emotions such as rage or anger
- A weak position
- Lose/Lose
- Happens with 2 Win/Lose people
- Often stubborn/ego-invested people
- Vindictive/get back/get even
- Strong desire for the other person to lose.
- For the war-minded individual
- Win
- Irrelevant if someone else loses
- No sense of competition
- Focus on what you want and get it
- Secure your own end.
- Others secure theirs
- No Deal
- Agree to disagree
- Cannot find a solution acceptable to both parties
- No need to manipulate people
- No need to drive for what you want
- Always have no deal as an option.
- The best option in family relationships
Which is not the best option?
This depends on the situation and reality. Win/win is always a good choice not in a life or death situation. Win/lose and Lose/Win is great may result in broken relationships and resentment.
In Interdependent relationships, a win/win or No deal is the best (Hummm!!🤔)
Take home message
- Each pattern of human interaction has its place in life.
- Choose the right one.
- The best option is always Win/Win
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